Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: You so back half of it is as we're doing this as part of our journey to record who we are, what we've done.
And hopefully it can be helpful to other people. But it's also to be an anthology for our children.
One thing to do, and I do it with every CEO that I talk to is every week we talk about wins and losses or successes and failures. And I'm happy to share mine second, but I'm going to make you do yours first. So anything on the dad fail or the dad win? I know baby's still a couple of weeks away, but still a part of the process.
[00:00:38] Speaker B: So please share authentically what you got.
[00:00:41] Speaker C: Yeah, I think my dad win for the week. We're in the kind of building mode. So we've built the crib.
I found a great rocking chair at a thrift store. That's going to be great. Very excited about that. And built the stroller.
We realized that we've got a lot of seats for the baby and they've all been built now. We've got a car seat, got a stroller, we've got a crib, got a bassinet, got a changing table, all that stuff. So that's definitely the win. I get very much the old fashioned dad points there for handling a screwdriver, a hex wrench, and putting together all the Ikea style furniture for the dad fails.
I'm struggling on this one this week off the I. Let me throw it over to you, Brad. What are your wins and fails for this week?
[00:01:41] Speaker A: I'll start with my fail because this is episode one. I'll just pull back a couple weeks. But I had Theodore, and he's really struggling to go down to sleep without contact now, which means he's physically touching.
And then he has this righteous preference for mom is way better than all of it.
And so Sarah Beth hands him to me in the afternoon. Little fried from work. Little fried. And she hands him to me and I put him in the pouch and I'm kind of trying to get him.
[00:02:15] Speaker B: To go to sleep.
[00:02:16] Speaker A: And then she says, well, just take him for ten minutes.
Cool. Ten minutes later, I look at her and she's kind of doing an email or doing something else. She kind of looks at me and I kind of look at her and then I go, oh, she wants me to try and put him down. So I walk into the bedroom, darken the lights, and I basically, for 45 minutes, have crying baby that I'm trying to shake sleep.
[00:02:38] Speaker B: Not shake sleep.
[00:02:43] Speaker C: Brad, you're going to give people the wrong impression here.
[00:02:45] Speaker A: Yeah, fair.
The fail about this wasn't just that I failed to achieve the goal of getting baby to sleep. The fail was she was waiting for me to say, hey, the ten minutes over, take a baby back and put baby to sleep. It was completely Brad communication fail that I misread. I did not check in, I did not align. I didn't talk at all about, hey. She was like, no, he's going to want to feed and then be on me, and then I'll put him to sleep. I just ignored all that and just tried to plow through and achieve the.
[00:03:19] Speaker B: Goal that was fail.
[00:03:22] Speaker A: And so we rehabbed that. On the flip side, today I take theo every Friday at 10:00 a.m.
And I knew how to do all the little things that I needed to do to get him settled, to check the temperature outside, to check the weather outside, and say, okay, today is going to be a stroller seat with him in the fall gear having had diaper, and he's screaming and yelling as I'm starting to walk away from the house. And two minutes later, peaceful, passed out baby, full hour nap. That's the win. And there's a gratifying feeling when you know that you can just be with your child, your son, and get him to sleep like a baby.
It's a beautiful win.
Or coming up on time. I'm sure that we have probably 18 years of information to present, but I just want to hold true to what we said we would do on this, which is try and keep it to the hour mark unless we have interviewees. But Rob, I guess I just ask.
Season one, episode one. How do you feel about this conversation and what we've done?
[00:04:39] Speaker C: I'm enjoying it so far. I think we're a little freewheeling. Thanks for everyone for coming along on the journey. But I'm excited.
My brain's already worrying about all the worrying, not worrying.
It's spinning up around all the things we can talk about, all the topics I want to dive into, all the things I want to learn.
And so I'm really excited for that. And I hope anyone who's listening has stuck with us this far and is excited to join us on the journey.
[00:05:07] Speaker A: Feel very similarly about it. I think there's something beautiful about recording what I'm actually going through for an audience, and it's not making myself an entertainer, but to actually express what I had and what I'm going through. One thing I'm really looking forward to, Rob, we've known each other for years is once baby comes along for you and you're going through things a little bit in sequence, a little bit behind where I am, but you're going to have new insights that will inform what I can do better. And so this is me laying an intention of I can't wait to learn more from you through this effort. So that's something that I really saw clearly today and I'm really excited to.
[00:05:47] Speaker B: Go forward with it.
[00:05:48] Speaker C: Yeah. And I'm happy and proud that you're about seven months ahead of me. So you get to blaze the way and I get to learn from all your mistakes. So I fully intend to take advantage of that for everyone.
[00:06:02] Speaker A: Listen, to my knowledge, everyone alive has been born and there's a lot of dads out there who have made mistakes. But I'm happy to be the mistake fund for you.
[00:06:14] Speaker C: No such thing as a perfect dad.
Yeah, and it's helpful to remember that everyone made it this far. Right?
There's no secret that's unattainable.
But I think something you said, brad, which I think is important to kind of convey to our listeners, is I remember you and I had a conversation in a different context maybe a year ago, and I think both of us expressed our kind of discomfort with being sometimes out front and being entertainers and being loud.
I think both of us like to build and we like to create genuine relationships. And I don't think it might not be natural for either of us to go and shout from the rooftops how awesome we are or try and get everyone to pay attention to us. And I know for me, this podcast is a way to step out of my comfort zone because inherently I'm going to have to get people to come listen and pay attention. So if you're listening, we really appreciate it and we want to hear from you. We want to build a community here. Brad and I are using this as an opportunity. When we sat down, we decided that even if no one ever listens, this is an opportunity for us to document our journey and learn. But hopefully some of you will come along for the ride with us and learn and ask us questions and tell us what topics you want us to dive into, send us advice, we'll find a way to let people send us questions and help contribute to the show.
[00:07:47] Speaker A: Let me double click on that a little bit.
When I was looking for resources, I really didn't find anything except for this one book, exciting bother that helped.
And the books on motherhood are more advanced with bigger followings and concepts. And there's wins and losses there. But on the fatherhood side, I just really didn't find anything that resonated well outside of one book. It was 30,000 books on Amazon when I last looked as first time father, and none of them really fit. And one of the things that I just really honor you, Rob, for seeing and then asking to start this is let's be that place. And that's not about you and I being upfront.
Let's just do it. And that's part of entrepreneurship and ceoship and daddyhood and all these things is we don't have to be great. We just have to push it forward a little bit. And that can be incredibly worth it if everybody who listens to get this gets one nugget from hanging out with us about being a better dad CEO. So thank you for putting it together.
[00:08:58] Speaker C: Thank you, Brad, for joining me. So I think this is a great place to end episode one. If you're listening, please, like, subscribe. Do all those things you need to do. It really helps us out. And then keep an eye out for episode two. We'll have more. We'll be hopefully 1% better, maybe more. And we'll hopefully bring you a whole bunch of great knowledge. Thanks, everybody.
